Last night while killing time on Facebook I came across this video.
If you didn’t decide to watch it, I’ll sum it up for you. A guy (and a girl who chimes in from time to time) basically voice their opinions on how they think gay men should be mindful of children when they are in public and avoid showing public displays of affection.
What’s really weird to me is I just had this conversation like two weeks ago with someone.
Anyway. I can go on and on about how ignorant I thought he sounded, but I’m not. Truth of the matter is it’s his opinion and I can’t knock him for having it. I personally believe that PDA should be halted in regards to all sexual orientations when it comes to children though. In the video the guy basically said that no heterosexual couple wants to answer to a child why two men are/were kissing, if the child were to ask.
I honestly think that is the problem. We don’t agree with every lifestyle choice people make and that’s cool, but at the end of the day we must all have a certain level of respect for each other. People stay wanting to turn their noses up at others, and when kids are involved, never really think of the effect it has on them. If you don’t agree with being gay, cool. But at least be respectful to just answer the question with something as simple as “people are just different.” That is a simple and general response that sums up life period. You don’t have to go into detail about what’s going on, and you’re also not being offensive to that group of people.
If we started handling situations with the open minds and ideas that people have to answer and own up to their own choices and decisions, life would be so much easier for us all. That’s just my opinion though. Can’t shoot a guy for straying to bridge the gap in this world. Feel free to leave your thoughts!
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I agree with you! The problem is that some parents are so afraid to explain “real” life to their kids. Gay people are everywhere and children are going to see them so just get your speech ready! I went to the MAC cosmetics counter in my hometown and there was a guy working there whose makeup was on point and my daughter ( 8 yr old) asked me “why does that man have on makeup, that’s only for girls?” I simply said, makeup is for anybody who wants to wear it because it makes people pretty and there’s nothing wrong with that. She ( in her infinite wisdom) said “oh ok” and went to the guy and said ” wow, you are really pretty”! He said “thanks” and the issue was a non-issue. Honesty is the best policy!
Well done V. I commend you on this rationale. As parents we have a duty to teach our children tolerance and acceptance. I don’t ever teach my son to use negative discriptors or judge someone. He doesn’t like to be laughed at or judged so I teach him not to do so.
Perfect! That’s how it should ALWAYS be. Folks don’t give children the credit they deserve. They’re usually better at equality than we grown-ups are. ;)
I could not even make it through more than five minutes of this ignorance. Yes, we live in a land of “freedom of speech” but with that freedom is the consequence of ignorance. It is always so amazing to hear people impose their morals and values on society, especially when they themselves are questionable. To say and I quote “subjecting them to something that is not right,” is just detestable.
PDA in excess is repulsive coming from any sexual orientation. Everything has a time or place this includes: eating meals, clipping toenails, using improper language and judging! In addition he should have been honest enough to say I do not want to see Gay PDA, I could have respected this instead of cloaking it behind what is right or wrong for “children.”
It was also interesting to hear him say that it is not wrong to be Gay but it is wrong to be Gay in front of children. I did not even want to hear what the young lady had to say because my mind was in a frenzy to begin with.
To the gentleman, how would you feel if I said I do not want to see two black people tonguing down in public, or I do not want to see a black man kissing a white woman, or even I just don’t want to see Black people period? Seems extreme right, but it is exactly the same. Your discomfort with someone else’s sexual orientation is shining through sir, and you are too much of a bigot to see it.
By the way in the lessons we teach our children, I hardly think you are qualified to do so.
The examples near the end of your comment are great.
I did some “snooping” (didn’t take much), and found out this brotha is actually bi. On his Facebook, he’s listed as being interested in “men & women”, and there are photos of him (he’s an exotic dancer), dancing for both men and women…
It’s always interesting to me when I see other Gay/Bi/Lesbian/Trans, etc. folks, rallying so hard and harshly against their own.
Priorities, I’m afraid, are fucked up.
(sigh)
Interesting post, parents have more control of their kids perceptions of people than they think. Raise your kids to not discriminate against race, gender or creed and it will become habitual not too.